Would you say, “No.”
I can’t help but think of the times I tell my kids “No” as they ask for this and that in their lives. Even with such cute little voices that even say, “Please Daddy.” Sometimes I still have to say, “No” and unfortunately training them to ask for things less and less.
It doesn’t help that I’m sitting here listening to Bon Jovi’s song, Living on a Prayer, but the reason I’m thinking about this so much is due to an interview and photo shoot I did with Actor, David Carbajal. you may have seen him in the short film Long Lonesome Go.
When I was first introduced to David by a mutual friend, he told me, “Yeah, I kid you not, he walked into a bank and asked, “Can I rob your bank?” Yes, I was completely pulled in and had to meet this guy who was so gutsy to even consider, much less, actually going into a bank and ask something so absurd and perhaps legally risky.
Then what really has my mind in a tornado of thoughts is, “Why do I find it so amazing?” Two things:
- The bank said, “Yes, that would be awesome!”
- Why am I so programmed to think the answer would be, even should be, “NO!”
So here is some more of the story; you see David is both an actor and a writer, and he had this idea for his movie that he really wanted a bank robbery scene. Understanding it would be too difficult to create a fake bank, he made the decision to walk into a bank and simply ask the manager if he could film a bank robbery there; and they thought it would be a lot of fun and said, “absolutely!” They were even able to get the local police to be a part of the action to make it as real as possible!
This is how David describes his motivation,
“Life is short, you only have so much time to wake up, work, get where you need to go and raise your family all in one day. Before you know it, you’ve lost control of the day and you push plans for the next. If you can take control of your destiny, of your tomorrow, how would you do it and where would you start.”
Question: What are you striving for? What is in your way? What would you want if all you had to do is ask?
I have a photography business, I’m a business owner, husband, and father to two boys; those questions are seriously keeping me up at night; what would I give my boys, my wife, and my business if all I had to do was ask.
I know what your thinking, “This is the part where he says, “Come to get photos.” Perhaps that is the right answer, but in this November month of Gratefulness, maybe you have something even beyond that for yourself or someone else. I pray whatever it is that is desired most does come to you by simply asking.
With the holidays right around the corner, I personally want to have my ear out to hear the wishes of others and fulfill even the smallest of dreams when and where I can.
Wishing you the best!
P.S. Here are a few quick images of David that we captured from our session!